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Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Betrayed by Shadows by Nancy Gideon (Giveaway,Interview and Book Review)


It is time for A Bookend Tour for Betrayed by Shadows by Nancy Gideon and hosted by Buy the Book Tours.  The tour runs from January 4 - March 1.  Full tour schedule is below:


January 4, 2013 - Romance Writer Sara Walter Ellwood(GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
January 5, 2013 - MJ Schiller (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Author Interview)
January 6, 2013 - HBS Author’s Spotlight (GIVEAWAY / Author Interview)
January 8, 2013 - Simply Ali (GIVEAWAY / Author Interview)
January 9, 2013 - Reading Romances (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog) 
January 11, 2013 - SciFiChick.com (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
January 13, 2013 - Janna Shay’s Fair Play (GIVEAWAY / Author Interview)    
January 15, 2013 - Christine’s Words (GIVEAWAY / Author Interview)   
January 19, 2013 - The Brook Sayers Blog (Author Interview)
January 20, 2013 - Amberkatze’s Book Blog (GIVEAWAY/  Guest Blog)
January 23, 2013 - Mama Knows Books (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
January 29, 2013 - OMFG!Books (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
January 31, 2013 - Krystal Shannan – Where Love & Destiny Collide (GIVEAWAY / Character Interview)
February 1, 2013 - Sarah Grimm, Author (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
February 3, 2013 - Writerly Ramblings (GIVEAWAY / Author Interview)
February 6, 2013 - DforDarla’s Definite Reads (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
February 12, 2013 - [Insert Clever Quip Here] (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Author Interview)
February 14, 2013 - Author’s Cafe (GIVEAWAY / Character Interview)
February 18, 2013 - Just One More Chapter (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Author Interview)
February 20, 2013 - Books and Needlepoint (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Author Interview)
February 22, 2013 - Romancing The Dark Side (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
February 23, 2013 - Sallie’s Book Reviews & More(GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
February 25, 2013 - I Know That Book (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Guest Blog)
February 26, 2013 - Reginamayross’s Blog (GIVEAWAY / Guest Blog)
February 26, 2013 - TBQ’s Book Palace (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Character Interview)
February 28, 2013 - Romance Book Junkies (GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Guest Blog)
March 1, 2013 - Cheryl Yeko  – Where Love Always Wins(GIVEAWAY / REVIEW / Author Interview)
Unscheduled Date - Open Book Society (REVIEW ONLY)


Title: Betrayed by Shadows
Author: Nancy Gideon
Publisher: Pocket Star

About the book: Balancing a criminal empire and a preternatural clan war, reluctant front man Giles St. Clair doesn’t need a problem like Brigit MacCreedy . . . How much trouble can the head-strong and manipulative Shifter beauty get into in two weeks? Plenty when her schemes range from kidnapping to fleeing the retribution of her dead lover’s clan. 

With her family’s lives on the line, Brigit is willing to do whatever it takes to save them. The only thing standing in her way is an immovable stone wall of a man she can’t bully or beguile . . . a human, no less, who has promised to protect her from the secrets and dangers she conceals. 

Risking her own safety gets complicated when an honorable and annoyingly desirable man puts himself between her and her powerful enemies in a battle he can’t win in this Taming of the Shrew meets Shifter Goodfellas on the Bayou tale of consequences, redemption and finding love in all the wrong places.





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My thoughts:  I had the opportunity to read Masked by Moonlight, the first book in this series, back in 2010, and really enjoyed it.  It was a series that I knew that I wanted to read more of - but of course, hundreds of other books got in the way.  When I was given the opportunity to read this one for review, I jumped on it!  I missed out on a lot in the five books that came in between - but this book does read well as a standalone.  

I really liked Brigit - she was all tough as nails on the outside, but once you got within the walls that she built up, she was really just lonely and looking for someplace to call home.  Giles was sort of the same way.  He had given up his family and home for revenge and just saw a lonely life stretching before him.  He had sold his soul to Jimmy Legere to exact revenge for his father's death, but since Jimmy died and Max Savoie has taken over the business, his dark side has started to retreat.  He has mixed feelings toward Brigit though.

You see, Giles is human and Brigit is "one of them".  Giles has always been big on compartmentalizing everything, but he is having a hard time trying to figure out where Bree should fit. Trouble seems to follow her, regardless of her intentions, and before you know it, it has found her in New Orleans.  Giles packs her up and takes her down to the backwoods where he is from to try to keep her safe.  They let their guard down and actually start to get close, but will the trouble that pursues her be too much for a fledgling romance?

This is a very fast moving book and you barely get a breather between crises. There is a lot of family loyalty, whether related by blood or friendship, where people will put everything they have on the line to save another.  Warning - there are sex scenes in the book, but they are not vulgar.  They are gentle, sensual, and leave you breathless. I will be doing my best to find some time to go back and fit in those books that I missed, as this is one author that I really enjoy reading.

~I received a complimentary ecopy of this book from Buy the Book Tours in exchange for my unbiased review.~


About the author: An author of over fifty novels since 1987, Nancy Gideon thrives on variety. Under her own name and several pseudonyms, she’s written award-winning series suspense, historical and paranormal bestsellers, earned a “Career Achievement for Historical Adventure”, and has had two original horror screenplays optioned for film. A Michigan native, she works full time as a legal administrative assistant and feeds a NetFlix addiction.

You can connect with Nancy here: 
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Blog
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Twitter 
Goodreads 



I was lucky enough to get Nancy to answer some questions for me!


1.      Was there anything (or anyone) while growing up which helped you decide you wanted to be a writer?
My mom.  She was a liberal-thinking woman long before it was cool (or acceptable) and told me to follow my dreams and do what I love . . . but get a good education first. I did.
2.      Do you have any books on your nightstand right now?
I have Justin Cronin’s The Twelve burning a hole in my iPad Kindle app.  I can’t wait to get to it. His first of the series, The Passage sucked away a week of my life. Can’t go wrong with vampire post-apocalypse.
3.      What do you come up with first when creating your characters- the back story, the plot, the characteristics?
Depends on the book!  Sometimes I’ll have a character and build the book around them. Sometimes, especially when writing a series, a character is born in an earlier book, ready to roll, the way Giles St. Clair and Brigit MacCreedy were in BETRAYED BY SHADOWS.  Giving them history and depth is the fun part.
4.      What do you do in your spare time?
Spare time . . . I vaguely remember that. Something I used to have before children and two jobs!
When I can shoehorn it in, I love to read, feed my Netflix addiction, play Mahjongg, and travel to warm places.
5.      How does your family feel about having a writer in the family? Do they read your books?
I’m divorced, which kinda tells you what my ex thought about it. My kids grew up with Mom as a stay at home writer so they’ve never known anything else. They’re very blasé. They were only impressed when I wrote a horror novelization and collaborated on a screenplay because I got my name listed in three places on the DVD and in two categories on IMDB. Boys are shallow creatures.  My sisters love and promote my books shamelessly.
6.      Where/when do you brainstorm best?
With my critique group.  The eight of us can brew up some serious creativity, especially on long drives to meetings.  Since we all write in different areas and truly respect each other’s work enough to be honest, it’s a great safety net for ideas. Love you guys!
7.      How long do you think about a story before starting to write the book?
Until it gels.  Once I can see it unfolding like a movie, I’m ready to go.  I don’t mind surprises along the way, but I need a destination before leaving the garage. Getting that first sentence perfect usually starts the ball rolling.
8.      What is your favorite way to promote a book?
Online.  I enjoy the blogging and fun contest things like my Haunted Open House that don’t require me to leave the comfort of my keyboard. Or wear pantyhose!
Now it is time for some Silly questions –
1.      If you could have a superpower, what would it be?
I’d love to be able to clone myself so I could send the clone to my day job and stay home to write.
2.      Do you have any hidden talents?
I love to organize other people’s lives. My own, not so much.
3.      Night owl or early bird?
Early bird! Right after coffee.
4.      Favorite season?
Spring and fall – the element of change. And they smell good.
5.      If someone wrote a book about your life, what would the title be?
Here Lies Nancy Gideon, Skin and Bones at Last!
6.      Favorite sport?
I don’t regularly follow any sports, but when one catches my eye, I become a rabid fan.  I love Drew Brees, the Olympics, and am a closet NASCAR watcher.
7.      Favorite music?
I’m a rocker from waaaay back, but I love most types of music . . .and immerse myself in something different for each book as its ‘soundtrack.’
8.      Talk or text?
Nancy don’t text.
9.      Cat or dog?
Love everything fur, fin and feather,  but can only have a cat at my apartment. So I have a cat.
10.   Guilty pleasure TV show?
HGTV!
11.   Sweet or salty snacks?
Anything salty . . . in fact, just put a salt lick on my desk.
12.   Favorite holiday destination?
Home.  I love to travel, but over holidays, there’s no place like home.
13.   Do you have a literary crush?
Dean Koontz.  I’d have his literary babies!


Thank you Nancy for visiting us here at Books and Needlepoint.  Probably my favorite part of reading an author's answers is seeing that we actually have things in common.  To think that the woman who was able to come up with this book likes to play Mahjongg (like me) and loves Dean Koontz (like me) is just awesome!

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Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Desert Rice/Desert Flower by Angela Scott (Book Reviews)





Welcome to the Virtual Book Tour of Desert Flower presented by Reading Addiction Blog Tours - February 18 - March 15!

February 18 - Reading Addiction Blog Tours - Meet and Greet
February 19 - Books and Needlepoint - Review
February 20 - Bean Counting Mommy - Review
February 22 - Snifferwalk - Review
February 23 - Andi's YA Books - Review/Interview
February 24 - The adventures Within - Review/INterview
February 25 - Author Ever Leigh - Review
February 26 - My Reading Addiction - Review
February 28 - 
March 1 - Queen of All She Reads - Review/interview
March 2 - Doodle's Book Blog - Review
March 3 - Reviewing Shelf - review
March 4 - Must Read Faster - Review
March 5 - 
March 6 - Oh! The Books That You'll Read - Review
March 7 - 
March 10 - A Bibliophile's Thoughts - Review
March 11 - My Neurotic Book Affair - Review
March 12 - My Cozie Corner- Review
March 13 - Book Maven - Review
March 13 - My Seryniti - Review
March 14 - Kaisy Daisy Blog - Review
March 15 - Taking it One Page at a Time - Review/Interview
March 15 - RABT Reviews - Review







Desert Rice
Desert Flower


About Desert Rice: Samantha Jean Haggert is a beautiful twelve-year-old girl—but no one knows it. All they see is an awkward boy in a baseball cap and baggy pants. Sam’s not thrilled with the idea of hiding her identity, but it’s all part of her older brother’s plan to keep Sam safe from male attention and hidden from the law. Fifteen-year-old Jacob will stop at nothing to protect his sister, including concealing the death of the one person who should have protected them in the first place—their mother.

Sam and Jacob try to outrun their past by stealing the family car and traveling from West Virginia to Arizona, but the adult world proves mighty difficult to navigate, especially for two kids on their own. Trusting adults has never been an option; no adult has ever given them a good reason. But when Sam meets “Jesus”—who smells an awful lot like a horse—in the park, life takes a different turn. He saved her once, and may be willing to save Sam and her brother again, if only they admit what took place that fateful day in West Virginia. The problem? Sam doesn’t remember, and Jacob isn’t talking.


About Desert Flower: Bodies have a canny way of finding Samantha Jean Haggert. The first, the dead body of her mama. The second, a naked man in the middle of the Arizona desert. For Sam, dealing with one dead body in her lifetime is more than unfair. Two, is downright cruel.

Seven years after running from West Virginia, Sam's now a young woman of nineteen, trying to put the pieces of her life together with the help of her family—Jacob, Boone, and Laura. But the naked man in the desert spirals her world out of control, resurfacing past hurts, revealing old secrets, and pitting her between two men who via for her heart. Carson, her friend, her first kiss, and the one man who knows everything about her past and loves her despite it. And Turner, the stranger who knows nothing, but who excites and frustrates her all at once. 

When bad choices made as a child leads to more bad choices as a young adult, Sam finds herself at a crossroads and is forced to face her demons head on if she plans to have any future at all—with Carson, with Turner, or with anyone. But fixing the wrongs of the past takes time, and learning to forgive herself is damn near impossible.




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Tori's Thoughts: I read Desert Rice in preparation for reading Desert Flower and am glad that I read them in order.  The first book gave me some background and insight into the story that may not have had quite the same punch without reading it.  I liked seeing the strong relationship between Jacob and Sam evolve - in the first book Sam is only twelve, but is wise beyond her years due to her circumstances.  She has lived through sexual abuse, betrayal, murder, but has also learned how strong family bonds can be, even if they are not related by blood. 

 Desert Flower starts out seven years later and her relationship with Carson (a boy who had become her protector in Desert Rice) has changed into a physical one.  Feeling confused, days later she also sleeps with Turner.  This creates one very interesting love triangle.  

I enjoyed that Jacob was still so supportive of Sam, even though he knew about both men in her life.  You also got to learn more about Laura and Boone in this book - they had taken them in in Desert Rice and without owing anybody any obligation have adopted them as their own.  In Desert Flower this relationship solidifies and you see what great people they really are.  

The pace of the book was consistent throughout Desert Rice and Desert Flower.  The story would move along over a period of days and then jump ahead a few weeks - which was confusing at first, but then I came to expect the jumps in time.  This wasn't really my style of book, as I really enjoy fantasy and sci-fi - but I found myself very involved in the story and did not want to stop reading.  I have a feeling there is a third book that could come out of this story.  My mom just told me that she has written a Zombie series and I am really looking forward to reading those!

REVIEW BY TORI! 
(Video added by her proud mom. . .  seemed like a good theme song for these books!)


~I received complimentary ecopies of these books from Reading Addiction Blog Tours in exchange for my unbiased review.~

About the author: I hear voices. Tiny fictional people sit on my shoulders and whisper their stories in my ear. Instead of medicating myself, I decided to pick up a pen, write down everything those voices tell me, and turn it into a book. I’m not crazy. I’m an author. For the most part, I write contemporary Young Adult novels. However, through a writing exercise that spiraled out of control, I found myself writing about zombies terrorizing the Wild Wild West—and loving it. My zombies don’t sparkle, and they definitely don’t cuddle. At least, I wouldn’t suggest it.

I live on the benches of the beautiful Wasatch Mountains with two lovely children, one teenager, and a very patient husband. I graduated from Utah State University with a B.A. degree in English, not because of my love for the written word, but because it was the only major that didn’t require math. I can’t spell, and grammar is my arch nemesis. But they gave me the degree, and there are no take backs.

As a child, I never sucked on a pacifier; I chewed on a pencil. I’ve been writing that long. It has only been the past few years that I’ve pursued it professionally, forged relationships with other like-minded individuals, and determined to make a career out of it.

You can subscribe and follow me on my website, where I blog obsessively about my writing process and post updates on my current works. I’m also on Twitter and Facebook, but be forewarned, I tweet and post more than a normal person.

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Desert Rice
Publisher/Publication Date:  Evolved Publishing, June 2012
ISBN: 9781622538546
225 pages


Desert Flower
Publisher/Publication Date: Evolved Publishing, Jan 2013
ISBN: 9781622538607
216 pages


First Wild Card Tour: The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Geri Scazzero (book review)

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!




You never know when I might play a wild card on you!


My thoughts:  This book did not do much for me.  It probably would have helped me in my twenties, when I was afraid of what other people thought and didn't want to rock the boat.  On the downside of my 40's though, I have learned that when someone hurts me, I tell them and we talk it out.  That if my child/children misbehave that everyone has been there and it isn't necessarily a reflection on me - that sometimes sharing those problems gives you more support than you realize is out there.  A lot of what is in this book seems like common sense to me - things that might not be evident when you are younger, but that you learn as you experience life.  I think this book might be good for twentysomethings, but if you are middleaged or older, I would think you would have had some of these insights on your own already.





Today's Wild Card author is:




and the book:


Zondervan (January 2, 2013)

***Special thanks to Rick Roberson for sending me a review copy.***


ABOUT THE AUTHOR:




Geri Scazzero is a teaching pastor and director of Marriage Ministry at New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, New York City, a multiracial, international church with over sixty-five countries represented. She is coauthor of The Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Workbook for small groups and also speaks regularly to pastors, leaders, and their spouses.





Visit the author's website.




SHORT BOOK DESCRIPTION:




Geri Scazzero knew something was wrong with her life and her ministry. After having spent 17 years trying unsuccessfully to fit into the traditional mold of "perfect pastor's wife," she finally threw in the proverbial towel. Making the painful decision to leave her husband's thriving church, she stopped pretending everything was "fine" and embarked upon a solitary journey of faith. Her emotional and spiritual trek not only established a revolutionary new paradigm in her life, but it also led her to a beautifully transformed life, marriage and ministry.



Within the pages of her latest book, author and popular conference speaker Scazzero shares deeply out of her own life, offering a seasoned and radical message for Christian women today. According to author Geri Scazzero, becoming an emotionally healthy woman begins by quitting eight unhealthy ways of relating. When you stop pretending everything is fine and summon the courage to quit that which does not belong to Jesus' kingdom, you will be launched on a powerful journey---one that will bring you true peace and freedom.

.Genre: RELIGION/Christian Living





Product Details:

List Price: $14.99



Reading level: Ages 18 and up

Paperback: 224 pages

Publisher: Zondervan (January 2, 2013)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 0310320011

ISBN-13: 978-0310320012






AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:







When You Can’t Take It Anymore







This is a book about following Jesus and summoning the courage to quit anything that does not belong to his kingdom or fall under his rule.







Traditionally, the Christian community hasn’t placed much value on quitting. In fact, just the opposite is true; it is endurance and perseverance we most esteem .For many of us, the notion of quitting is completely foreign. When I was growing up, quitters were considered weak, bad sports, and babies. I never quit any of the groups or teams I was part of. I do remember briefly quitting the Girl Scouts, but I soon rejoined. Quitting is not a quality we admire— in ourselves or in others.







The kind of quitting I’m talking about isn’t about weakness or giving up in despair . It is about strength and choosing to live in the truth. This requires the death of illusions. It means ceasing to pretend that everything is fine when it is not. Perpetuating illusions is a universal problem in marriages, families, friendships, and work places. Tragically, pretending everything is fine when it’s not also happens at church, the very place where truth and love are meant to shine most brightly.







Biblical quitting goes hand in hand with choosing. When we quit those things that are damaging to our souls or the souls of others, we are freed up to choose other ways of being and relating that are rooted in love and lead to life.







For example . . .



When we quit fear of what others think, we choose freedom .



When we quit lies, we choose truth.



When we quit blaming, we choose to take responsibility.



When we quit faulty thinking, we choose to live in reality.







Quitting is a way of putting off what Scripture calls falsehood and the old self . As the apostle Paul writes, “Put off your old self . . . and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood” (Ephesians 4:22 – 25). When we quit for the right reasons, we are changed. Something breaks inside of us when we finally say, “No more.” The Holy Spirit births a new resolve within us. We rise above our fears and defensiveness. The hard soil of our heart becomes soft and ready to receive new growth and possibilities .







The Bible teaches that there is a time and season for everything under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1). That includes quitting. But it must be done for the right reasons, at the right time, and in the right way. That’s what this book is about.







Cutting the Rope







In 1985, Simon Yates and his climbing partner, Joe Simpson, had just reached the top of a 21,000-foot peak in Peru when disaster struck. Simpson fell and shattered his leg. As the sky grew dark and a blizzard raged, Yates tried to lower his injured friend to safety. At a certain point, however, he accidently lowered Simpson over an ice cliff, where he hung helplessly. Straining to hold his partner’s body in midair, Yates was faced with choosing life or death for his friend.



When he could hang on no longer, Yates had to make a hellish decision: cut the rope and save his own life, sending his partner plummeting down to certain death, or face certain death trying to save him.



Yates later related those painful moments, “There was nothing I could do. I was just there. This went on for an hour and a half. My position was getting desperate . . . I was literally going down the mountain in little jerky stages on this soft sugary snow that collapsed beneath me. Then I remembered I had a penknife. I made the decision pretty quickly really. To me it just seemed like the right thing to do under the circumstances. There was no way I could maintain where I was. Sooner or later I was going to be pulled off the mountain. I pulled the penknife out.”







Yates cut the rope moments before he would have been pulled to his own death.







Certain that his partner was dead, Yates returned to base camp, consumed with grief and guilt over cutting the rope. Miraculously, however, Simpson survived the fall, crawled over the cliffs and canyons, and reached base camp only hours before Yates had planned to leave. In describing his decision to cut the rope, Yates articulates the core inner struggle for each of us in doing I Quit!







I had never felt so wretchedly alone . . . If I hadn’t cut the rope, I would certainly have died. No one cuts the rope! It could never have been that bad! Why didn’t you do this or try that? I could hear the questions, and see the doubts in the eyes of those who accepted my story. It was bizarre and it was cruel . . . However many times I persuaded myself that I had no choice but to cut the rope, a nagging thought said otherwise . It seemed like a blasphemy to have done such a thing. It went against every instinct: even against self-preservation. I could listen to no rational arguments against the feelings of guilt and cowardice . . . I resigned myself to punishment. It seemed right to be punished; to atone for leaving him dead as if simply surviving had been a crime in itself.







Quitting can feel like we are severing a lifeline, that someone, possibly even ourselves, is going to die. For this reason quitting is unthinkable to many, especially in the church. It appears “bizarre” and “cruel.” Who wants to be unpopular and rock the boat or disrupt things? I sure didn’t.







But there comes a point when we cross a threshold and we can’t take it anymore. Like Yates, we know we will die spiritually, emotionally, or otherwise unless we quit and choose to do something differently. We finally step over our fears into the great unknown territory that lies before us.







Yates was criticized by some in the mountain-climbing community for violating a sacred rule of never abandoning one’s partner — even if both died in the process. Joe Simpson himself passionately defended Yates’ choice. Ultimately, Yates’s decision to cut the rope saved both their lives.







The “Unfree” Christian







When I fell in love with Christ, I fell hard. As a nineteen- year-old college student, the enormity of God’s love over- whelmed me. I immediately began a passionate quest to know this living Jesus, and I was willing to do whatever it took to please him.







I eagerly structured my life around key spiritual disciplines such as reading and memorizing Scripture, prayer, fellowship, worship, fasting, giving financially, serving, silence and solitude, and sharing my faith with others. In my pursuit of Christlikeness, I absorbed books about the importance of spiritual disciplines by such authors as Richard Foster, J . I . Packer, and John Stott. They were helpful in broadening my understanding of Christianity and inspiring me to keep Christ at the center of my life. However, I failed to grasp the truth that a healthy spiritual life includes a careful balance between serving other people’s needs and desires and valuing my own needs and desires. Instead, I put most of my efforts into caring for others at the expense of my own soul.







The accumulated pain and resentment of this imbalance led to my first big “quit” at age thirty-seven. After seventeen years of being a committed Christian, I came to realize that excessive self-denial had led me to a joyless, guilt-ridden existence. Jesus invited me into the Christian life to enjoy a rich banquet at his table. Instead, it often felt like I was a galley slave, laboring to serve everyone else at the feast rather than enjoying it myself. In my relation- ship with Jesus, I’d gone from the great joy of feeling over- whelmed by his love to bitter resentment at feeling overwhelmed by his demands.







My identity had been swallowed up in putting others before myself. I constantly thought of the needs of our four small daughters. I worried about Pete’s responsibilities. I filled in wherever needed to help our growing church. These are all potentially good things, but my love had become a “have to,” a “should” rather than a gift freely given. I mistakenly believed I didn’t have a choice.







A renewed understanding of my own dignity and human limits enabled me to place loving boundaries around myself. I soon realized this was central to offering a sincere and genuine gift of love to others. Like God’s love to us, it must be free. And the extent to which I valued and loved myself was the extent to which I was capable of loving others well.







Dying to Live







Quitting is about dying to the things that are not of God. Make no mistake, it is one of the hardest things we do for Christ. But the good news is that quitting itself isn’t just an end; it is also a beginning. Biblical quitting is God’s path for new things to come forth in our lives, for resurrection. And yet, the path that leads to resurrection is never easy.







Internal voices alarm us with fears of quitting.







“What will people think?”



“I’m being selfish and not Christlike.”



“I will mess everything up.”



“People will get hurt.”



“Everything will fall apart around me.”



“I will jeopardize my marriage.”







Everything inside us resists the pain associated with dying — the nonnegotiable prerequisite for resurrection. As a result, we often cave in to our fears as a short-term anxiety-relief strategy. Sadly, this usually leads to painful long-term consequences — ongoing inner turmoil, joyless- ness, and festering resentments. As a result, we become stuck and ineffective in bearing genuine fruit for Christ. In my case, it resulted in a shrinking heart that sought to avoid people rather than love them.







Yet, it is only through dying that we can truly live. In the words of Jesus, “who- ever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it” (Mark 8:35). And that was what happened when I quit — I got my life back. And what followed were even more transformations that not only changed me but also brought new life to Pete, our marriage, our children, our church, and to countless others .







Quitting has purified my heart. It has demanded I admit truths about myself that I preferred to bury and avoid. Facing flaws and shortcomings in my character, my marriage, my parenting, and my relationships has been scary. At times, I felt like I was cutting the rope that kept me safely tethered to the side of a mountain. But God has used each free fall to purge my heart and to give me a more intimate experience of his mercy and grace. Thus, along with a deeper awareness of my sinfulness, I have become increasingly captured by God’s passionate and undeterred love for me.







Quitting has led me to a dream-come-true marriage with Pete. Over time, as we began to eliminate unhealthy ways of relating and practice new emotionally healthy skills, our marriage has become a sign and experience of Christ’s love for his bride, the church. And quitting impacted the rest of our relationships as well, including our relationship with our children, our extended families, and the larger community of New Life Fellowship Church.







Quitting has taught me to be loyal to the right things. Although “I quit” might sound like it’s only about leaving something, I actually gained a renewed commitment to persevere for the right things. I learned how to serve others sincerely rather than begrudgingly. The apostle Paul offers this vivid description of the paradox of quitting:







What happens when we live God’s way [when we quit]? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard — things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely. (Galatians 5:22 – 23 MSG, emphasis added)







I never dreamed quitting would lead to this kind of freedom and fruit. I used to try to produce, through my own efforts, the fruit of the Holy Spirit. But I found out that when we do life God’s way, fruit simply appears in the orchard. It is a marvel to behold. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. What I ultimately discovered when I quit was a path into the true purpose of my life — to be transformed by the love of God and, by the Holy Spirit, to slowly become that love for others .















The pages that follow explore eight specific “I Quits.” While they do build on one another and are meant to be read in order, each chapter also stands alone. You may wish to begin with a chapter that speaks most urgently to your present circumstance. Once you’ve read that chapter, I encourage you to return to the beginning and read how that content fits into the larger whole .







We don’t make the decision to quit just once; each “I Quit” is a lifelong journey. One never really finishes with any of them. I wrote I Quit! to prepare you to walk through this new journey for the rest of your life. As you continue your journey of quitting, know that you don’t have to figure out everything by yourself. I encourage you to find and rely on wise, experienced mentors to guide you through the complexities of quitting well. Knowing when and when not to quit are equally important!



Let us now begin to explore the first “I Quit” — quit being afraid of what others think.

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Book Review: The Bracelet by Roberta Gately

Title: The Bracelet
Author: Roberta Gately
Publisher: Simon and Schuster

About the book: Newly heartbroken and searching for purpose in her life, Abby Monroe is determined to make her mark as a UN worker in one of the world's most unstable cities: Peshawar, Pakistan.  But after witnessing the brutal murder of a woman thrown from a building, she is haunted by the memory of an intricate and sparkling bracelet that adorned the victim's wrist.

At a local women's shelter, Abby meets former sex slaves who have miraculously escaped their captors.  As she gains the girls' trust and documents their horrifying accounts of unspeakable pain and betrayal, she joins forces with a dashing New York Times reporter who believes he can incriminate the shadowy leader of the vicious human trafficking ring.  Inspired by the women's remarkable bravery -- and the mysterious reappearance of the bracelet -- the duo traces evidence that spreads from remote villages of South Asia to the most powerful corners of the West, risking their lives to offer a voice to the countless innocents in bondage.

Browse inside The Bracelet

My thoughts: This book was fascinating and tragic at the same time.  It gave me a look inside the world of human trafficking at a time when my local church is getting involved in a local program dealing with human trafficking.  It is really scary to me to think that there may be women in my own community who are trafficking victims - but that is a story for antoher day - back to The Bracelet.

Abby chose to go to Peshawar to get away from a broken heart and an unsatisfying job.  She wasn't really thinking about where she was going, but what she was running from.  When she sees a woman fall from a balcony in Geneva on her way to Peshawar, she has no way of knowing what that even will come to mean to her, but it is really just foreshadowing the events that she will experience in Pakistan.

She is pretty timid at first, pretty introverted, visiting the camp but not really stepping out side the boundaries she has erected for herself.   As she gets to know the women though, her compassion comes to the forefront and she really starts to relate to them and goes out of her way to befriend them.  Abby does not really understand how Najeela, an Afghan woman who works in the UN house that Abby lives in, does not want to do more for these women.  Najeela is just concerned with what her European boyfriend can give her in the way of jewelry,  and how she is going to get past her father's objections when she announces that she wants to marry him.

Nick, a journalist who comes to Pakistan to do an article on Abby, also helps to push Abby out of her comfort zone.  Abby is determined not to cooperate with him, because she does not want to be the subject of an article.  But like with the women in the camp, her carefully constructed walls start to come down and soon her and Nick have stumbled upon some key players in the trafficking world.

LIke I said in the beginning, this was a fascinating read but the tragedy that is happening both here and all over the world is horrifying.  It was quick paced and really kept me glued to the pages.  I would highly recomment this one if you are looking for chick lit with a little soul.

~I received a complimentary copy of this book from Simon and Schuster in exchange for my unbiased review.~


Publisher/Publication Date: Gallery Books, Nov 2012
ISBN: 978-1-4516-6912-1
316 pages

Random Acts of Kindness Giveaway Hop (Feb 17 - 24) - US Only



It's time for another giveaway - this one is the Random Acts of Kindness Giveaway hosted by I am a Reader, Not a Writer and Read For Your Future.  I have randomly pulled five books out of my giveaway bin and will be sending them to two winners. (U.S. only)  The first winner will get to choose three of them, the second winner will get the remaining two.  The books are:


The Big Dirt Nap
by Rosemary Harris

A hit with mystery lovers and gardening fans nationwide, Pushing Up Daisies introduced Paula Holliday, ex-NYC media exec turned Connecticut gardener, in Rosemary Harris’s celebrated series debut. Now in The Big Dirt Nap, Paula is back in a second scent-sational thriller.

Something stinks to Paula Holliday, and it isn’t just the corpse flower, titan arum, named for its off-putting fragrance. When Paula’s friend Lucy asks her to tag along on an all-expense-paid junket to the Titans Hotel, it seems like a good idea. Paula even manages to squeeze a few bucks and a byline out of the local paper for writing an article on the titan arum, a rare flower that’s just about to bloom and on display at the hotel.

But when her friend is unavoidably detained, a would-be suitor is found with a gaping hole in his head, and the corpse flower refuses to bloom, the entire venture starts to seem like less of a good idea.

Brimming with wit and wisecracks, The Big Dirt Nap is sure to win rising mystery star Rosemary Harris a whole new slew of ardent fans


The Blackberry Bush
by David Housholder

Who are You, and what are you doing here?Two babies Kati and Josh are born on opposite sides ofthe world at the very moment the Berlin Wall falls. You'dthink such a potent freedom metaphor would become thesoundtrack for their lives, but nothing could be furtherfrom the truth.Despite his flawless image, Josh, an artistic and giftedCalifornia skateboarder, struggles to find his true role in theworld, and his growing aggression eventually breaks him.Kati, a German with a penchant for classic Swiss watchesand attic treasure-hunting, is crushed with disappointmentfor never being enough for anyone most especially hermother.Craving liberation, Kati and Josh seem destined to claimtheir birthright of freedom together. After all, don't the chance encounters transform your life or are they reallychance?



Wayward Saints
by Suzzy Roche

Mary Saint, the rule-breaking, troubled former lead singer of the almost-famous band Sliced Ham, has pretty much given up on music after the trauma of her band member and lover Garbagio's death seven years earlier. Instead, with the help of her best friend, Thaddeus, she is trying to piece her life together while making mochaccinos in San Francisco. Meanwhile, back in her hometown of Swallow, New York, her mother, Jean Saint, struggles with her own ghosts.

When Mary is invited to give a concert at her old high school, Jean is thrilled, though she's worried about what Father Benedict and her neighbors will think of songs such as "Sewer Flower" and "You're a Pig." But she soon realizes that there are going to be bigger problems when the whole town--including a discouraged teacher and a baker who's anything but sweet--gets in on the act.

Filled with characters that are wild and original, yet still familiar and warm--plus plenty of great insider winks at the music industry--Wayward Saints is a touching and hilarious look at confronting your past and going home again.




The Girl in the Green Raincoat by Laura Lippman


In the third trimester of her pregnancy, Baltimore private investigator Tess Monaghan is under doctor's orders to remain immobile. Bored and restless, reduced to watching the world go by outside her window, she takes small comfort in the mundane events she observes . . . like the young woman in a green raincoat who walks her dog at the same time every day. Then one day the dog is running free and its owner is nowhere to be seen. Certain that something is terribly wrong, and incapable of leaving well enough alone, Tess is determined to get to the bottom of the dog walker's abrupt disappearance, even if she must do so from her own bedroom. But her inquisitiveness is about to fling open a dangerous Pandora's box of past crimes and troubling deaths . . . and she's not only putting her own life in jeopardy but also her unborn child's.


Previously serialized in the New York Times, and now published in book form for the very first time, The Girl in the Green Raincoat is a masterful Hitchcockian thriller from one of the very best in the business: multiple award-winner Laura Lippman.




The Good Father
by Diane Chamberlain

A beloved daughter. A devastating choice. And now there's no going back.

Four years ago, nineteen-year-old Travis Brown made a choice: to raise his newborn daughter on his own. While most of his friends were out partying and meeting girls, Travis was at home, changing diapers and worrying about keeping food on the table. But he's never regretted his decision. Bella is the light of his life. The reason behind every move he makes. And so far, she is fed. Cared for. Safe.

But when Travis loses his construction job and his home, the security he's worked so hard to create for Bella begins to crumble...….

Then a miracle. A job in Raleigh has the power to turn their fortunes around. It has to. But when Travis arrives in Raleigh, there is no job, only an offer to participate in a onetime criminal act that promises quick money and no repercussions.

With nowhere else to turn, Travis must make another choice for his daughter's sake.Even if it means he might lose her.


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