Monday, June 29, 2009
My Forbidden Desire by Carolyn Jewel (Book Review)
Author: Carolyn Jewel
Publisher: Forever, Grand Central Publishing
I read this book for the current blog tour.
First sentence: An icy sensation prickled across the back of Alexandrine Marit's neck and raised gooseflesh on her arms.
About the book: Alexandrine was a witch - but not a very strong one. She had been given away by her father, Rasmus Kessler, at the age of 3 because she did not show any promising powers. She was what was known as vanilla (magekind with little power). Her father was a very powerful mage who had many magehelds (a fiend or demon who is under complete control of a magekind) to do his bidding. She did not find this out until she was an adult.
In traveling to find her biological parents - she meets a woman in Turkey and is given a talisman. Unbeknownst to her, this talisman is very valuable and contains the life and magic of a fiend that was siphoned off as they are dying. She has worn this talisman for the better part of nine months and it's power has slowly been leaking into her system. With good intentions she emails Alvaro Magellan to find out what her talisman is exactly and if it has any powers. Because of this email she becomes a target for her father, who wants to possess the talisman and will go to any lengths to get it - even if it means her death.
Xia, a demon and a former mageheld of Kessler's, is brought by her brother Harsh to protect her. Xia hates witches though and with good reason. It was because of a witch that he was rendered vulnerable and was able to be overpowered and enslaved as a mageheld. Witches and mages are known for their desire to kill demons. Alexandrine tries to convince him that she is not like other witches and would never hurt him. His ability to trust her is nil, but he knows that he must help her separate her powers from the talisman's before it kills one or both of them. Slowly his duty towards her turns to desire for her. Will he be able to control his desire and fulfill his duty? Or will his desire put her in even more danger?
My thoughts: This book was just okay for me. I felt like I was lacking background info - so about 1/2 way through I went searching to see if there was an earlier book - and BINGO - this is the sequel to My Wicked Enemy. I think it would be much easier to get into this book if you read My Wicked Enemy first! That would have made a huge difference for me - as I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how certain characters played into the storyline. I have a feeling much of this background is explained in the first book.
My Forbidden Desire
Publisher/Publication Date: Forever, Grand Central Publishing, June 2009
ISBN: 978-0-446-17824-2
359 pages
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Soul Survivor - New Giveaway!
About the book: This is the story of James Leininger, who-- a little more than two weeks after his second birthday-- began having blood-curdling nightmares that just would not stop. When James began screaming out recurring phrases like, "Plane on fire! Little man can't get out!" the Leiningers finally admitted that they truly had to take notice.
When details of planes and war tragedies no two-year-old boy could know continued-- even in stark daylight-- Bruce and Andrea Leininger began to realize that this was an incredible situation. SOUL SURVIVOR is the story of how the Leiningers pieced together what their son was communicating and eventually discovered that he was reliving the past life of World War II fighter pilot James Huston. As Bruce Leininger struggled to understand what was happening to his son, he also uncovered details of James Huston's life-- and death-- as a pilot that will fascinate military buffs everywhere.
In SOUL SURVIVOR, readers are taken for a gripping ride as the Leiningers' belief system is shaken to the core, and both of these families come to know a little boy who, against all odds and even in the face of true skeptics, harbors the soul of this man who died long ago.
About the authors: Bruce and Andrea Leininger, James' parents, live in Louisiana with their son James, who is now nine years old.
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First Wild Card Tour: How to Raise a Modern Day Joseph
You never know when I might play a wild card on you!
and the book:
How to Raise a Modern-Day Joseph
David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)
Linda Massey Weddle is a children’s author and regular contributor to publications including Women’s Day and Christian Parenting Today. She develops Bible-based curriculum for young people and has been involved in children’s and youth ministry for the past twenty years. She has two grown children and six grandchildren and resides in suburban Chicago.
Visit the author's website.
Product Details:
List Price: $16.99
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1434765318
ISBN-13: 978-1434765314
AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:
A Journey Worth Planning
For parents like you…in churches like yours…this book is practical guide for a child’s spiritual
development—a journey in which parents and churches work together to raise kids who know, love, and serve the Lord.
Much of the vision and purpose for such a journey is discussed in my friend Larry Fowler’s book, Raising a Modern-Day Joseph. The book you hold in your hands—How to Raise a Modern-Day Joseph—focuses more on the practical side of that. It gives parents a workable plan for putting this vision and purpose to work in their everyday family life.
No Guarantees?
Like Larry’s book, this one is needed because we’re in the midst of a crisis. The statistics stagger us as we read about, hear about, and see young people walking away from their faith.
We surprised that this could be happening, since after all…
• our churches provide nurseries, Sunday school, vacation Bible School, Awana, youth ministries, and every other kind of kid or youth program imaginable.
• our children’s ministry curriculum is more entertaining, colorful, and professional looking than ever before.
• the market is flooded with “Christian” action figures, mugs, pencils, wallpaper, wallets, posters, linens, T-shirts, and toys, many decorated with clever “Christian” sayings.
• radio stations play Christian music twenty-four hours a day, and television channels broadcast a never-ending selection of messages from both local churches and polished, smooth-talking televangelists.
And here’s an even tougher dilemma: Why does a kid from one home walk away from the Lord while a kid in another home stays true to Him—yet the families in both homes have attended the same church, Sunday school, vacation Bible school, Awana clubs, etc.?
What happened? What’s the difference?
Before going further, I need to say this:
No plan,
no curriculum,
no humanly written book,
no pastor,
no teacher,
no parent…
can absolutely guarantee that a young person will not walk away from what they’ve been taught.
God works with His people individually, and each individual must make the choice to trust Christ as Savior. Each one chooses to walk with the Lord or to walk away from Him. After all, even with the first two kids we read about in the Bible, one had a criminal record.
The absence of such a guarantee is due to sin.
Scripture declares that the whole world is a prisoner of sin, so that what was promised,
being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe.
(Galatians 3:22)
So yes, unfortunately, children don’t come with guarantees.
But God’s Word does come with a guarantee: If we trust the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior,
believing that He died and rose again, we’re promised…
• the forgiveness of sin (bridging the separation between imperfect people and a perfect
God).
• eternal life.
• a future in an unimaginably perfect heaven.
That’s some guarantee!
No, we as parents don’t have guarantees, but we do know that children who grow up in strong, Christ-centered homes—where God’s Word is both taught and lived—are more likely to live godly lives as adults.
But lets take a glimpse at what’s typically going on in many families.
A Church and Pastor Problem?
I grew up as a preacher’s kid, and as an adult became a preacher’s wife—I know firsthand how often the preacher and the church get blamed for parental failures.
I remember one Sunday morning after the church service when my husband was shaking hands with people filing out of the auditorium. Suddenly a mother stormed into the lobby, yelling and visibly upset. She said her son had been knocked over by other boys in the parking lot.
My husband’s first reaction was to call an ambulance, but the mom said that wasn’t necessary; her son just scraped his knee. “But,” she shouted, pointing to my husband. “This was your fault.”
“Why?” he asked. He could see our own two kids talking with friends nearby, so it wasn’t them who had knocked down the woman’s son. So why was this his fault?
“Because it’s your church,” the lady screamed. “And so they’re your responsibility.” (Well, that wasn’t true either; the church belongs to the people.)
But that true story is a picture of what many people do spiritually.
Just as many parents leave the physical well-being of their children up to the church (the drop-them-off-in-the-parking-lot syndrome), so many parents do the same with their children’s spiritual well-being, training, and guidance: Drop them off in the parking lot and let the church do the nurturing (whether or not the parents are even in the same building).
Maybe you feel this way too—at least to some extent. After all, you make sure your children go to church for every kids’ activity possible, so you figure the church’s pastors, teachers, and leaders are covering that spiritual training part of your kids’ lives. You’re busy doing other things, like working long hours to provide for your family, which is your responsibility.
Deep inside, you hope those people at the church are doing it right. And if your kids walk
away from the Lord someday, you’ll certainly have something to say about the church’s failure,
since spiritually raising your kids is their job.
Right?
Well, no!
From the Start
Let’s review some essentials of what the Bible says about the family.
The Family Is the First Group God Created
The family came before towns or countries, and before churches, youth programs, basketball
teams, or Facebook. God immediately created the marriage partnership—in fact, by the second
chapter of Genesis, God had already established marriage:
For Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. (Genesis 2:20-22)
And already by the fourth chapter in Genesis, we learn about children.
The Family (Marriage Partnership) Is a Picture of Christ and the Church
Paul says it this way:
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. (Ephesians 5:21–27)
Family “Rules” Are Listed Throughout the Bible
Here’s an example:
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. (Colossians 3:18-21)
Family Members Need to Encourage Each Other
Paul pointed to family encouragement as a model for the entire church:
But we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children. For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into His kingdom and glory. (1 Thessalonians 2:7, 11–12)
The family has the primary responsibility in the spiritual training of children. But families also
need the church to come alongside them to nurture their kids, to provide Christian friendships
from likeminded families, and to give complementary spiritual training. (We’ll look at all that
more closely later.)
Someone Who Knew, Loved, and Served God
The goal of Awana (the ministry I serve with) is to train children and youth to grow into adults who know, love and serve the Lord. We’ve come to see that this is also an outstanding goal for parents in training their children.
And as a biblical example of a young person who grew up to know, love, and serve the Lord, it’s hard to beat Joseph in the Old Testament. Not that he came from a perfect family.
Most children know about Joseph. They know he received a unique coat from his father—and our perception of that is a knee-length coat with rainbow-colored stripes. But why would grown men (his older step brothers—see Genesis 30:1-25) care about their little brother’s multicolored coat? The Hebrew word here for “coat” refers to a full-length tunic—sleeves to the wrist, the hem to the ankles. This was the style of coat worn by rich young men. They didn’t have to work (they had slaves or servants to do that), and they had a position of honor both in the home and in the community.
Joseph’s full-length coat was probably made of white linen, with bands of colorful embroidery as trim. By contrast, working men wore looser fitting, shorter garments so they could climb over rocks and take care of their sheep—they needed to move quickly and not be hindered by long clothing. So the brothers weren’t jealous of the colors of Joseph’s coat, but rather the implied position Joseph held in wearing such a garment.
Joseph lived in Hebron. The word Hebron means “community” or “fellowship.” Joseph had fellowship with his father, but this wasn’t a family who had a lot of fellowship with one another. I don’t think dinnertime conversations were leisurely discussions about the price of sheep feed or the Hebron weather.
The truth is, Joseph came from a dysfunctional family. This is obvious when you read in Genesis 30 about the intrigue involving his mother, his mother’s sister, their servants, and drugs (mandrakes—which were seen as narcotics or aphrodisiacs). Rachel and Leah were both jealous women who were willing to have their servants lie with Jacob so they could win the who-can have-the-most-sons race. And when Rueben brought home some mandrakes, Rachel desired them so much she was willing to “sell” Leah a night with Jacob to get her hands on them.
This of course isn’t part of the biography we read about in Sunday school, but these events are worth noting here. Out of this mess, the Lord brought Joseph, a young man who never wavered from the assurance that God was with him; a young man with a true heart-desire to know, love, and serve the Lord.
We know that Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery, and he ended up in Egypt. We know he quickly gained power and influence in Potiphar’s house, then quickly lost it when fleeing the temptations of Mrs. Potiphar. Yet even when put in prison, Joseph knew God was with him, and he remained faithful. Later, because he interpreted the king’s dream, he was made a VIP and placed in charge of the entire land of Egypt. In that position, he was able years later to publicly forgive his brothers.
Through it all, Joseph concluded that it wasn’t his brothers who sent him to Egypt, but God. God had a plan for him, and Joseph listened to God and fulfilled His plan—something he was later able to testify about to his brothers: “God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance” (Genesis 45:7).
Joseph’s life in particular reflected five godly character qualities—we’ll call them “master life threads”— that were woven into the very being of who he was and how he lived his life.
• Respect for the awesomeness and authority of God (Genesis 39:6-9.
• Wisdom for living life, based on a knowledge of God (40:5-8).
• Grace in relationships with others (41:51-52).
• A sense of destiny and purpose that came from God (45:4-10).
• A perspective for life based on the sovereignty of God (50:15-21).
These master life threads are also desired characteristics in the lives of our own children—as they learn to know, love, and serve the Lord.
We know that Joseph knew about the Lord. God was the God of his father, Jacob. As Joseph’s life continued in surprising new situations—as head of Potiphar’s household, as a prisoner, and finally as the man in charge of all of Egypt—he continued following the Lord. Over and over in the biblical account of Joseph’s life, we read that the Lord was with him, as in Genesis 39:21: “The LORD was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden.”
We know that Joseph loved the Lord because of the way he lived his life, refusing to be drawn into the temptations of a rich and powerful household, and because of his exemplary forgiveness toward the brothers who had wronged him: “But Joseph said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.’ And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them” (Genesis 50:19-21).
And we know that Joseph served the Lord—by making righteous choices, by administrating the seven years of plenty, and by giving food not only to the people of Egypt but to other countries as well. As the famine intensified, and “the people cried to Pharaoh for food,” Pharaoh responded, “Go to Joseph and do what he tells you” (Genesis 41:55).
Modern-Day Josephs
What Christian parent wouldn’t want their child to grow up to be a modern-day Joseph—a young person who reflects those five master life threads, and who knows, loves, and serves the Lord?
For many parents (and maybe this includes you), their children are already becoming Josephs. They do excellent jobs spiritually nurturing their children. They daily teach their kids God’s Word by guiding them toward recognizing the need to trust Christ, praying with them, reading the Bible together, encouraging Scripture memorization, explaining difficult words and concepts and talking about the qualities of the Christian life. Then they live out God’s Word in everyday life. They take their responsibility seriously.
Then there are other parents simply don’t think about their child’s spiritual training. These parents flounder through life, not learning much themselves about what the Bible actually says, and they couldn’t begin to explain the difference between Genesis and Galatians. Yet they’re law abiding citizens and church-attending Christians. They figure their kids will turn out okay. After all, they get their kids to Sunday school and even sent them once to a Christian summer camp.
But the majority of Christian parents are somewhere in the middle. They desire to be spiritual nurturers of their children, but they don’t know how. They might be intimidated that they might not say the right words. (What if my child asks me to explain eschatology or something?) Or they don’t know where to find a plan that shows them how to be a spiritual nurturer. (They may not even realize they should have a plan).
Furthermore, you probably know some adults who grew up without any spiritual nurturing in the home, yet who are now pastors, missionaries, church leaders, or shining witnesses in the secular workplace. The Lord used someone besides a parent to mentor that child, or gave the child a desire for Bible study that transformed her into someone who truly wants to know, love, and serve the Lord.
Goal and Plan
If our destination for our children is having a child who develops Joseph-like characteristics—knowing, loving, and serving the Lord—what’s the itinerary or plan for that journey?
The lack of such a plan often becomes the roadblock in our children’s spiritual development—and getting past that roadblock is what this book is all about. This book is not a step-by-step itinerary, but more of an atlas where you pick and choose which stops to make in your own family journey—because we know all families are different, with different schedules, different interests, and different personalities.
Our desire is to give your family (and your church) ideas—lots of ideas for helping to spiritual nurture your children. But as the parent, you need to devise the route.
It’s a plan that involves both parents—and the church as well.
Dad
The father is the head of the house and the God-ordained leader of the home. Dads and moms need to work together to spiritually raise their children.
A spiritually strong dad will…
• pray with his children.
• lead the children in Bible study and worship.
• take an interest in what the child is learning at church.
• teach his children Bible verses, Bible concepts, and Bible truths.
• discuss challenging questions, cultural events and concepts with his children.
• model a Christlike attitude in his daily life.
Unfortunately in too many homes, Mom is by herself in doing all of this. Dad might drive the family to church, but he doesn’t take any real responsibility in the child’s spiritual development.
If you’re a father, know this: God has given you a job to do. Your responsibility is to do it. You can’t expect your child to grow into a God-honoring adult when he sees you ignore the Bible, find every excuse possible to avoid church, and live a life that’s inconsistent with what God says in His Word.
Mom
Children need both parents involved in their spiritual training, and that’s the basic scenario presented throughout this book. It’s a sad situation when Dad is faithfully living for the Lord, but Mom doesn’t want any part of it.
Mom needs to be an active part of the praying, teaching, discussing, and modeling too. For example, sometimes Mom’s the one who spends a half-hour before or after school helping her children work on a memory verse, and when Dad gets home, he can enthusiastically listen to the children recite the verse. This is a joint effort. Both parents are huge influencers.
You might be a single mom and already feel defeated because you don’t have a husband to help you out. You can still teach your children from God’s Word and live an exemplary life. In your situation, the partnership of the church may be more important than usual. Hopefully your church has good male role models teaching younger children, so your children can profit from a masculine influence.
A good example of one parent spiritually training a child is that of Eunice and her son Timothy (2 Timothy 1:4-5). Eunice did have the help of her own mother, Timothy’s grandmother, but she didn’t have any help from her unbelieving Gentile husband. Timothy’s mom and grandma taught him the Old Testament Scriptures and exemplified godly lives. When the apostle Paul came along and taught Timothy about the Son of God and His sacrifice on the cross, Timothy was ready to trust Christ as Savior. Timothy became Paul’s son in the faith (1 Timothy 1:2), and Paul recognized of the foundation which Timothy’s mom and grandma had laid.
Many single parents do great jobs in spiritually training their children. If you’re a single parent, or your spouse isn’t interested in God and His Word, you need to surround yourself with likeminded adults who can give you and your children support and encouragement.
Fitting into Your Schedule
When, where, and how do we spend time spiritually training our children?
The following verses from Deuteronomy give clear instruction that our entire daily lives should provide teaching opportunities to spiritually train our children:
Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth. (Deuteronomy 11:18-21)
In a real sense, spiritual training in the home is ongoing and never-ending. It’s really a part of everything you do.
But we also need to set aside specific times when we come together as a family to pray, honor, and worship the Lord and to study and memorize His Word. Some families enjoy singing or playing instruments together. Others read a page from a devotional book.
One teenager said, “Our family wasn’t musical, so that wasn’t part of our activities. But we did other things, such as making rebuses of Bible verses.”
You might set aside a time each day for spiritual focus—at the breakfast or supper table, or before bed. Or you could plan family nights when an entire evening is dedicated to a lesson, an activity, and a special treat. (Be careful you don’t present the activity as more important and fun than the lesson. Bible study can and should be a great experience.)
Maybe your family’s schedule is so complicated that you can’t have a regular set time for spiritual focus, but you can still conscientiously meet together as a family to pray, worship, and learn about the Lord.
A couple considerations in all this:
• Sometimes families are diligent in having family devotions, but that’s the only time their children hear about the Lord. Because Dad prays and reads a page from a devotional book, he feels he’s taken care of his spiritual leadership responsibilities. Five minutes later, the children hear him swear when opening the gas bill, or see him confront a neighbor because the neighbor’s dog messed up the lawn. What he verbally taught is negated by the way he lives his life.
• Families are different. One guy diligently teaches his kids from the Bible, helps them with their memory verses, and consistently lives a godly life, yet he feels guilty. He knows of another family that spends thirty minutes of concentrated training at the supper table each night, but his irregular work schedule doesn’t allow him to do that. He is, however, doing a great job. We need to focus on our own families, not on what someone else is doing.
We as parents need to work together to develop the itinerary for our own families, keeping
our eyes on the goal of raising children who know, love, and serve the Lord.
Your Church
Whether large or small, your church is your best partner in raising your children.
In fact, the size of the church doesn’t really matter. Mega churches have the money and staff to provide exciting programs for both parents and children, and those programs can be good. But smaller churches can be better at giving a child a sense of security, family, and nurturing that you don’t always find in a larger church.
So church size isn’t important. What is important is the attitude of the church and the pastor toward kids. Does your church leadership really care about kids? Do they see the value in children’s ministry, and provide necessary resources to spiritually disciple children? Do they occasionally visit children’s or youth ministry times to give the lesson, answer questions, or simply greet the children or youth? Do they make an effort to learn the names of the kids, or do they know your three teenagers (who have been attending the church since birth) only as the Hansen kids?
If your church doesn’t see the importance of encouraging families, maybe you could be the catalyst to begin the initiative.
After this book’s Part One (which focuses on giving parents specific age-appropriate suggestions for their child’s spiritual development), Part Two will focus especially on practical ways the church can partner with you in this task. Be sure to explore what’s presented in Part Two, and become familiar with ideas of how churches and families can work together.
Planning Your Family’s Spiritual Journey
The ideas in this book are suggestions. No parent can do everything, just as no church can do everything either. Our goal is to give you plenty of ideas to help get you started and keep you going.
So let me lay out what you’ll find in each chapter in Part One, which is especially geared for you as a parent. (Keeping the journey idea in mind, most of these components have travel-related labels.)
Life Threads
Each chapter targets a different stage of a child’s life, and will focus on an appropriate life thread
(reflecting a quality that Joseph displayed in his life).
Here are these life threads for each age category:
Preschoolers (ages 2-5) Respect
Early Elementary (ages 5-8—kindergarten to second grade) Wisdom
Older Elementary (ages 8-11—third through sixth grades) Grace
Middle School (ages 11-14—seventh and eighth grades) Destiny
High School (ages 14-18—ninth through twelfth grades) Perspective
At the beginning of each chapter, you’ll find listed again the life thread to focus on for that stage in your child’s life.
By the way, if you’re looking at this list and thinking, “Great, but my child is already twelve years old!”—that’s okay. Yes, you’ve missed some prime training opportunities, but you can catch up. Review the sections for preschoolers and elementary age children, and teach the principles to your child using explanations and activities appropriate for a twelve-year-old. Instead of regretting what you missed, focus on the present and look to the future. These concepts are good for all ages—including adults.
What They’re Like
Early in each chapter, this section lists ten characteristics about that particular age category. Understanding these characteristics will give you a great head start in helping your child grow spiritually.
What They’re Asking
This section in each chapter lists the kinds of questions that kids in this age group typically ask about God and the Bible. You’ll also find suggested answers to a few of the questions.
These questions came from a “Biggest Question Survey” sponsored by Awana. A few years back, we asked 4,000 children and teenagers, “What’s your biggest question about God and the Bible?” These children and teenagers all had some Bible background (though, after looking at their questions, we surmised that some didn’t remember much of it). Then we determined the most-asked questions for each age group.
But don’t stop with reading what other kids have asked; ask your own children for their biggest questions about God and the Bible.
What You Can Do
In this section of each chapter you’ll find a wealth of practical suggestions for what you as a parent can do to help in your child’s spiritual growth in each stage. This begins with a short section about helping your child make the all-important decision to trust Christ as Savior.
Bios and Verses
Here you’ll find appropriate Bible biographies and Scripture memory verses to explore and learn with your children.
(At Awana, we substitute the word “biography” for “story” to emphasize that what comes from the Bible is true and not fictional. We explain that a biography is a true story about someone.)
What Not to Do
Sometimes we hinder more than we help. Each chapter includes this section where you’ll find common errors to avoid in each stage of your child’s life.
Checklist
Each chapter also includes a checklist of basic attainments to look for in your child’s spiritual development.
Family Itinerary
Finally, the section in each chapter labeled “Family Itinerary” is a worksheet to help you develop your plan and goals for your child’s spiritual journey in each stage.
Here are a couple of samples of completed itineraries from two families, one with younger children and one with teenagers:
A Sample Itinerary for a Family with Young Children
Our spiritual goals for the year are:
1. Teach Emma and Jacob that God created the world.
2. Teach Emma and Jacob that God loves each one of us.
3. Teach Emma and Jacob that the Bible is God’s book.
4. Teach Emma and Jacob that Jesus is God’s Son.
5. Teach Emma and Jacob that we’re to obey God.
Our family verse for this year is:
Genesis 1:1
We’ll also study the following six additional verses (one every two months) about God and His character:
1. Psalm 33:4
2. Proverbs 3:5
3. Matthew 28:20
4. Romans 3:23
5. Ephesians 6:1
6. 1 John 4:14
We’ll also study the following six Bible biographies (one every two months):
1. Adam
2. Joseph
3. Heman
4. Josiah
5. David
6. Christ’s birth
We will also do a more extensive study on this person in the Bible:
Heman in 1 Chronicles 25:5–7. We’ll learn how he and his family sang in the temple. We’ll learn a song together and sing at church.
Here are other activities our family will do together to learn about Bible characters:
1. We’ll watch a series of DVDs on Bible characters (a set we were given that’s factual).
2. We’ll visit Grandma and Grandpa and look at their pictures they took in Israel.
3. We’ll study Josiah and other Bible characters who served God even though they were young.
4. We’ll do several crafts using natural materials from the outdoors as we talk about God’s creation. These will include leaf-tracings, pictures on sun-sensitive paper, and drying flowers.
5. We’ll teach Emma and Jacob to identify five birds and five flowers, explaining that
they were all created by God.
Here are some themes for family fun nights we would like to do this year:
1. We’ll build a birdhouse together and learn about ten birds in our area of the country, and we’ll talk about creating a wonderful variety of birds.
2. We’ll make a mural for the basement wall of David watching his sheep.
3. We’ll invite Grandpa and Grandma to family night so they can hear Jacob and Emma say their verses.
4. We’ll make a book of all the different Bible biographies Jacob and Emma have learned at church this year.
5. We’ll visit the zoo.
6. We’ll make cookies for the lady down the street who’s homebound.
Our family has completed this year’s family itinerary and met our spiritual goals.
(Signed by each family member)
A Sample Itinerary for a Family with Children in High School
Our spiritual goals for the year are:
1. Study the book of Ephesians together.
2. Encourage Andrew and Amanda to teach and mentor their younger siblings.
3. Discuss biblical worldview and what that means as Andrew and Amanda head off to college.
4. Have open, honest discussions about difficult cultural issues.
5. Encourage Andrew and Amanda to write down any questions they may have about God and the Bible and to work through those questions as a family.
6. For Andrew and Amanda to serve by singing and playing guitar at the rescue mission once a month.
Our family verse for this year is:
Joshua 24:15
This year we’ll do the following family research project:
On creation. The project will culminate with a week at creation camp this summer.
We’ll memorize this chapter from the Bible:
Ephesians 2
We’ll read (either as a family or individually) the following books:
1. Evidence That Demands a Verdict by Josh McDowell
2. Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis
Our family service project this year will be:
Serving at the soup kitchen on Thanksgiving and Christmas
Our family has completed this year’s family itinerary and met our spiritual goals.
(Signed by each family member)
Sunday, June 28, 2009
How to Raise a Modern Day Joseph by Linda Massey Weddle (Book Review)
Title: How to Raise a Modern Day Joseph Author: Linda Massey Weddle
Publisher: David C. Cook
I read this for the first wild card tour happening tomorrow.
This book is divided into two sections - the first one for parents and the second one for the church. In the section for parents, the chapters are divided out by age with each age covering a "life thread".
- Preschoolers (2-5) - Respect
- Early Elementary (5-8) - Wisdom
- Older Elementary (8-11) - Grace
- Middle School (11-14) - Destiny
- High School (14-18) - Perspective
- What They're Like (children in age group)
- What They're Asking
- What You Can Do
- Bios and Verses (It uses biographies instead of Bible Stories - as a story implies fiction whereas the Bible is nonfiction - I like this alot!)
- What Not to Do (Again - I thought this was a great section for parents!)
- Checklist
- Family Itinerary
There is an area at the end of each chapter to design a family itinerary for your children. This itinerary includes things such as - family verse for the year (or passage or book as the children get older), which verses or bios you are going to study throughout the year, spiritual goals, and other things appropriate to each age group.
The last section of that book that is devoted to churches shares how a church can help and support families in designing and implementing their individual itineraries. I especially liked the idea of having a mentor/prayer partner for every child. . I already have someone in mind for one of my daughters that I am going to pray about and see where it leads.
If you are serious about training your kids to lead a life like Joseph and reflect these five godly character qualities (Master Life Threads):
- Respect for the awesomeness and authority of God (Genesis 39:6-9)
- Wisdom for living life based on a knowledge of God (40:6-8)
- Grace in relationships with others (41:51-52)
- A sense of destiny and purpose that came from God (45:4-10)
- A perspective for life based on the sovereignty of God (50:15-21) (p13)
About the author: Linda Massey Weddle is a children's author, and her more than two thousand articles and short stories have been published by publications such as Women's Day and Christina Parenting Today. She develops Bible-based curriculum for young people and has been involved in children's and youth ministry for the past forty years. She has two grown children and six grandchildren and resides in suburban Chicago.
How to Raise a Modern Day Joseph
Publisher/Publication Date: David C. Cook, June 2009
ISBN: 978-1-4347-6531-4
220 pages
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Mailbox Monday 6-29-2009
Mailbox Monday is hosted at The Printed Page or In Your Mailbox at The Story Siren. Please stop by those posts and take a look at what packages everybody else got this week! I had some great giveaways start last week so don't forget to enter!
ARC Arrivals
- Millie's Fling by Jill Mansell - Received from Sourcebooks
- The Death of a Pope by Piers Paul Read - Received through Bostick Communications
- Last Light Over Carolina by Mary Alice Monroe - Received from Pocket Books
- Ravens by George Dawes Green - Received from Hachette Books
- Hunter by Campbell Jefferys - Received through Bostick Communications
- The Hidden Man by David Ellis - Received through Shelf Awareness
- Confessions of a Trauma Junkie by Sherry Jones Mayo - Received from the author.
- Hollywood is Like High School with Money by Zoey Dean - Received from Hachette Books.
- A Lucky Child by Thomas Buergenthal - Won over at Booking with Bingo.
- Belong to Me by Marisa de los Santos - Won over at Bookworm with a View.
- Precious by Sandra Novack - Won over at Diary of an Eccentric.
- The Wednesday Letters by Jason F. Wright - Won over at Page after Page.
- The Birth House by Ami McKay - Page after Page win.
- The End of the Alphabet by CS Richardson - Page after Page win.
- The Memory Keeper's Daughter by Kim Edwards - Page after Page win.
- The Boy Next Door by Meggin Cabot - Page after Page win.
- Two Way Street by Lauren Barnholdt - I won at Serena Robar's website.
- Chocolat by Joanne Harris - Page after Page win.
- Casting Spells by Barbara Bretton - Received from the author.
Blog Tour for My Forbidden Desire Starts Today!
My Forbidden Desire by Carolyn Jewel
About the book: Torn Between. . .
Alexandrine Marit is a witch in mortal danager. An evil mage craves the powerful, mysterious talisman that supplies her magic, and the only person who can keep her alive is a dark and dangerous fiend called Xia. With his fierce animosity toward witches, he's hardly the ideal bodyguard. Yet as days turn into nights, she can't deny the white-hot passion between them.
Desire and Temptation . . .
Xia hates witches. They enslave and mercilessly kill his kind. But he's been ordered to protect Alexandrine, who, to his surprise, has a spirit he admires and a body he longs to possess. With the mage and his henchmen closing in, Alexandrine and her protector must trust the passion that can unite them . . . or risk losing everything to the enemies who can destroy them both.
Read the first chapter of My Forbidden Desire
About the author:
When not writing, Carolyn Jewel is a Database Administrator. She lives in northern California with her son, three cats, a border collie, several chickens, and some sheep. Twitter @cjewel.
She is also the author of Scandal, The Spare, Stolen Love, Lord Ruin, A Darker Crimson, Stolen Love, DX in Shards of Crimson Anthology and My Wicked Enemy.
These blogs are all participating in the tour - please stop by for a visit!
PARTICIPATING BLOGS:
http://bridget3420.blogspot.com - June 28 review and giveaway
http://booksoulmates.blogspot.com/ - June 28 review and giveaway
http://ajourneyofbooks.blogspot.com - June 28 review and giveaway
www.morbid-romantic.net - June 28 review, giveaway, and Q&A
http://debbiesworld.wordpress.com - June 28
http://yankeeromancereviewers.blogspot.com/ - June 28 giveaway
http://rannthisthat.blogspot.com - June 28
http://dreyslibrary.blogspot.com/ - June 28 review, giveaway, and Q&A
http://undercoverbooklover.blogspot.com/ - June 28 giveaway and Q&A
http://bookinwithbingo.blogspot.com - June 28
http://martasmeanderings.blogspot.com/ - June 28 review and giveaway
http://www.mgpblog.com/ - June 28 review and giveaway
http://www.startingfresh-gaby317.blogspot.com/ - June 28 review and giveaway
http://trinsnook.blogspot.com - June 28 review and giveaway
http://mustreadfaster.blogspot.com/ - June 29 review and giveaway
http://www.loveimpossible.com - June 29 review and Q&A
http://seductivemusings.blogspot.com/ - June 29 review and giveaway
http://reviewfromhere.com/ - June 29 review
http://booksandneedlepoint.blogspot.com/ - June 29 review; giveaway
http://mindingspot.blogspot.com/ - review, giveaway, and Q&A
http://reesspace.blogspot.com - review and giveaway
http://carolsnotebook.wordpress.com/ - June 29 review, giveaway, and possible Q&A
http://horrorandfantasybookreview.blogspot.com - June 29 review and giveaway
http://www.myspace.com/darbyscloset - review
My Forbidden Desire
Publisher/Publication Date: Forever, Grand Central Publishing, June 2009
ISBN: 978-0-446-17824-2
384 pages
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Saturday, June 27, 2009
Frederica by Georgette Heyer (Book Review)
Author: Georgette Heyer
Publisher: Sourcebooks
I read this book as an ARC from Sourcebooks. Thanks Danielle!
About the book: When Frederica brings her younger siblings to London determined to secure a brilliant marriage for her beautiful sister, she seeks out their distant cousin the Marquis of Alverstoke. Lovely, competent, and refreshingly straightforward, Frederica makes such a strong impression that to his own amazement, the Marquis agrees to help launch them all into society.
Lord Alverstoke can't resist wanting to help her.
Normally wary of his family, which includes two overbearing sisters and innumerable favor-seekers, Lord Alverstoke does his best to keep his distance. But with his enterprising - and altogether entertaining - country cousins getting into one scrape after another right on his doorstep, before he knows it the Marquis finds himself dangerously embroiled. . . (from the back cover)
My thoughts: I am slowly becoming a Georgette Heyer fan. I was a little concerned after I read Why Shoot a Butler? that this was not going to be the author for me. But then I read The Convenient Marriage and quickly changed my mind. This book, Frederica, was more in line with The Convenient Marriage. It was full of family, humor, society do's and don'ts and of course, romance.
The heroine, Frederica, though just in her 20's, is caring for her younger sister Charis and three younger brothers, Harry, Jessamy and Felix. She has decided that Charis' chance to meet a suitable husband would be better in the city than in the country. This is where Lord Alverstoke comes in. He is their father's cousin, but Frederica thinks he would be Charis' best chance at being introduced into society. She is very honest with him about her request, and after Lord Alverstoke finds out her sister is beautiful, he decides to help her. You see, Lord Alverstoke is pretty selfish and used to getting what he wants - he is also tired of everyone asking him for favors. But he thinks this would be a good "game" to play with his sister who has been asking him to help introduce HER daughters into society - and her daughters are no where near as beautiful as Charis. So, in offering to help Frederica, he forces his sister to take Charis under her wing and introduce her also. Confused?
This book does take awhile to get into and to get invested into the characters - but once you do it flows. Please be sure to give it a chance as I think you will be happy you did!
About the author: Georgette Heyer wrote over 50 novels, including Regency romances, mysteries, and historical fiction. She was known as the Queen of Regency romance, and was legendary for her research, historical accuracy, and her extraordinary plots and characterizations.
Publisher/Publication Date: Sourcebooks Casablanca, January 2009 (original 1965)
ISBN: 978-1-4022-1476-9
446 pages
Friday, June 26, 2009
Friday Finds: 6-26-2009
Publisher: Harper Collins
About the book: This heart-stopping story of a young girl hiding from the Nazis is based on Clara Kramer's diary of her years surviving in an underground bunker with seventeen other people.
Clara Kramer was a typical Polish-Jewish teenager from a small town at the outbreak of the Second World War. When the Germans invaded, Clara's family was taken in by the Becks, a Volksdeutsche (ethnically German) family from their town. Mrs. Beck worked as Clara's family's housekeeper. Mr. Beck was known to be an alcoholic, a womanizer, and a vocal anti-Semite. But on hearing that Jewish families were being led into the woods and shot, Beck sheltered the Kramers and two other Jewish families.
Eighteen people in all lived in a bunker dug out of the Becks' basement. Fifteen-year-old Clara kept a diary during the twenty terrifying months she spent in hiding, writing down details of their unpredictable life—from the house's catching fire to Mr. Beck's affair with Clara's neighbor; from the nightly SS drinking sessions in the room above to the small pleasure of a shared Christmas carp.
Against all odds, Clara lived to tell her story, and her diary is now part of the permanent collection of the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. (from the Barnes and Noble website)
About the author: Clara Kramer (nÉe Schwarz) and her family were among the approximately five thousand Jews in Zolkiew, Poland, before World War II. At the end of the war, she and her parents numbered among the approximately sixty who survived. Kramer is the co-founder of the Holocaust Resource Foundation at Kean University. She lives in New Jersey.
The Indifferent Stars Above: The Harrowing Saga of a Donner Party Bride by Daniel James Brown
Publisher: Harper Collins
About the book: In April of 1846, Sarah Graves was twenty-one and in love with a young man who played the violin. But she was torn. Her mother, father, and eight siblings were about to disappear over the western horizon forever, bound for California. Sarah could not bear to see them go out of her life, and so days before the planned departure she married the young man with the violin, and the two of them threw their lot in with the rest of Sarah's family. On April 12, they rolled out of the yard of their homestead in three ox-drawn wagons.
Seven months later, after joining a party of emigrants led by George Donner, Sarah and her family arrived at Truckee Lake in the Sierra Nevada Mountains just as the first heavy snows of the season closed the pass ahead of them. After a series of desperate attempts to cross the mountains, the party improvised cabins and slaughtered what remained of their emaciated livestock. By early December they were beginning to starve.
Sarah's father, a Vermonter, was the only member of the party familiar with snowshoes. Under his instruction, fifteen sets of snowshoes were hastily constructed from oxbows and rawhide, and on December 15, Sarah and fourteen other relatively young, healthy people set out for California on foot, hoping to get relief for the others. Over the next thirty-two days they endured almost unfathomable hardships and horrors.
In this gripping narrative, Daniel James Brown takes the reader along on every painful footstep of Sarah's journey. Along the way, he weaves into the story revealing insights garnered from a variety of modern scientific perspectives–psychology, physiology, forensics, and archaeology–producing a tale that is not only spell-binding but richly informative. (from Barnes and Noble website)
About the author: Daniel James Brown is the author of the widely acclaimed Under a Flaming Sky: The Great Hinckley Firestorm of 1894. He lives in the country east of Redmond, Washington, with his wife and two daughters.
Publisher/Publication Date: Harper Collins, April 2009
ISBN: 9780061728600
352 pages
The Indifferent Stars Above
Publisher/Publication Date: Harper Collins, April 2009
ISBN: 9780061348105
352 pages
The Friday 56: 6-26-2009
Rules:
* Grab the book nearest you. Right now.
* Turn to page 56.
* Find the fifth sentence.
* Post that sentence (plus one or two others if you like) along with these instructions on your blog or (if you do not have your own blog) in the comments section of Storytime with Tonya and Friends.
*Post a link along with your post back to Storytime with Tonya and Friends.
* Don't dig for your favorite book, the coolest, the most intellectual. Use the CLOSEST.
Henry from Fully Caffeinated stood up on his chair and waved an angry fist "Maybe Isadora has had the right idea all along. I say it's time to think about moving the whole shebang beyond the mist." (from Casting Spells, p56)
Wonderful Win: Casting Spells
Publisher: Penguin
I am not sure where this came from. I received it in the mail (autographed!) along with a great tote bag featuring Casting Spells on one side and Laced With Magic on the other. There were also bookmarks and fridge magnets! I believe I had visited Mrs. Bretton's website and had taken her up on her offer of free fridge magnets and book marks. . . and I know that I have entered some contests for this book - but where this great package came from is a mystery. (Though I just realized that I never checked the mailing label - I will have to go to the recycle bin later and see if it can give me a clue - I will keep you updated!)
About the book: Sugar Maple looks like any bucolic Vermont town, but when the tourists go home, it's a different story - inhabited as it is with warlocks, sprites, vampires, witches, and an ancient secret. And I know all about secrets. I'm Chloe Hobbs, owner of Sticks & Strings, a popular knitting shop where your yarn never tangles, you always get gauge. . . and the knitter sitting next to you comes out only after dark.
I'm also a sorcerer's daughter - a single sorcerer's daughter with Sugar Maple's future in her hands, which means the whole town is casting spells meant to help me find Mr. Right. Who'd have guessed I'd find him in Luke MacKenzie, a cop investigating Sugar Maple's very first murder? Bad news is he's 100 percent human, which could spell disaster for a normal future with a paranormal woman like me - in love, in danger, and in way over my head. (from the back cover)
About the author: Barbara Bretton is the USA Today bestselling, award-winning author of more than forty books. She currently has more than ten million copies in print around the world. Her works have been translated into twelve languages in more than twenty countries.
Barbara lives in New Jersey but loves to spend as much time as possible in Maine with her husband, walking the rocky beaches and dreaming up plots for upcoming books.
ARC Arrival: Hollywood is Like High School with Money
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing/Hachette Books
I received this book from Miriam at Hachette Books. Thank you Miriam!
About the book: Twenty-four-year-old Taylor Henning has just landed her dream job as an assistant at a major movie studio. Immediately, her catty coworkers undermine her, and she realizes the saying "Hollywood is like high school with money" is absolutely true. But Taylor wasn't exactly a social butterfly in high school. How is she supposed to do any better now?
Then she meets her boss's popular daughter, Quinn, and has an epiphany: Maybe this queen-bee teenager can teach her the tactics she needs to succeed in the movie business. The shrewd Quinn takes Taylor under her wing and soon she's racking up victories against rival assistant Kylie. But when Taylor is directed to steal Kylie's boyfriend, something happens that's not in the script: She falls for him. Can Taylor harness her inner mean girl while staying true to herself? (from the back cover)
About the author: Zoey Dean is the author of Privileged, which was adapted into a weekly TV series, and the New York Times bestselling A-List series. (from the back cover)
ISBN: 978-0-446-69719-4
288 pages
ARC Arrival: Confessions of a Trauma Junkie
Publisher: Modern History Press
I received this book directly from the author. Thank you Sherry!
About the book: Take a ride in the back of the ambulance. Share the innermost feelings of emergency services workers as they encounter trauma, tragedy, redemption, and even a little humor. Sherry Jones Mayo has been an Emergency Medical Technician, Emergency Room Nurse, and an onscene critical incident debriefer for Hurricane Katrina. Most people who have observed or experienced physical, mental or emotional crisis have single perspectives. This book allows readers to stand on both sides of the gurney; it details a progression from innocence to enlightened caregiver to burnout, glimpsing into each stage personally and professionally. (from the book cover)
Read an excerpt of Confessions of a Trauma Junkie (Have the Kleenex handy)
About the author: Sherry Jones Mayo is a native of Michigan, a registered nurse and a licensed paramedic. Currently an emergency room trauma nurse in Las Vegas, Nevada she has combined her experience in emergency medicine and critical incident stress management (CISM) with a love for writing, having published her work in several military, civilian, medical, collegiate and Internet forums.
Sherry’s experience in both rural and urban emergency medicine stirred an interest in critical incident stress management. In her 19 years of involvement with the United States Air Force Auxiliary, Civil Air Patrol, she has advanced to the grade of Lieutenant Colonel. During her tenure as the National Director, Critical Incident Stress Management at CAP, she demonstrated an exceptional mastery of the subject, and was the key architect in the development of CAP's National CISM Program, taking it from concept to a full program supporting the emergency services and first responder work of the organizations 50,000+ volunteers.
Sherry is a member of, and Approved Instructor for the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation (ICISF). She is also a Diplomate with the National Center for Crisis Management.
Sherry lives in Las Vegas with her husband Gary and their loving kitten, Izzy. (from author's website)
Confessions of a Trauma Junkie
Publisher/Publication Date: Modern History Press, June 2009
ISBN: 978-1-932690-96-5
218 pages
Wonderful Win: Two Way Street
Publisher: Simon Pulse/Simon & Schuster
I won this book at Serena Robar's website. She is a YA adult author with a new book out - Giving Up the V. She has been giving away a book a day all month - there is still some days left so head on over and get in on the fun!
About the book: There are two sides to every breakup. This is Jordan and Courtney, totally in love. Sure, they were an unlikely high school couple. But they clicked; it worked. They're even going to the same college, and driving cross-country together for orientation.
Then Jordan dumps Courtney - for a girl he met on the Internet.
It's too late to change plans, so the road trip is on. Courtney's heartbroken, but figures she can tough it out for a few days. La la la - this is Courtney pretending not to care.
But in a strange twist, Jordan cares. A lot.
Turns out, he's got a secret or two that he's not telling Courtney. And it has everything to do with why they broke up, why they can't get back together, and how, in spite of it all, this couple is destined for each other. (from the back cover)
About the author: Lauren Barnholdt was born and raised in Syracuse, New York, and currently resides in central Connecticut. She is the author of The Secret Identity of Devon Delaney, and her first novel for teens, Reality Chick, was a Teen People "Can't Miss Pick." When she's not writing, Lauren likes to read, blog, and reorder her Netflix queue three million times. Although she's been on numerous road trips, none of them have been with a guy who dumped her. (from the book)
One Scream Away - New Giveaway!!!
About the book: Killer Chevy Bankes is a master of disguise, and just paroled, he's coming after the woman who sent him to jail, the beautiful antiques expert Beth Denison. A set of antique dolls brings Beth into his sight, and inspire Chevy's disturbing crimes as he draws closer to Beth and her young daughter. Chevy sends the dolls to Beth one-by-one and she soon realizes that these antiques carry the same marks as his victims, signaling that the final piece in his collection will be for her.
Neil Sheridan gave up his FBI shield five years ago, but his best friend Rick, a cop, pulls him in as a consultant on a case involving a serial killer who is eerily similar to a murderer Neil encountered in the past. The investigation leads Neil to Beth's doorstep, and he is certain she isn't telling him the truth. Neil is the only one who can get through Beth's defenses and, as they grow closer, discover the secrets that Beth is hiding about her fateful night with Chevy.
Rules
- Only residents of U.S. or Canada
- No PO Boxes
- Five (5) books being given away - giveaway ends July 17th.
- Leave a comment w/email address to enter. (may leave all entries in one comment)
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- Post about it on blog or any social network - leave me a link +3.
- If someone says you referred them you will each get +3!