In April, we found out that our 16 year old daughter was pregnant. It definitely threw our family for a loop. Pretty much sucked the air out of any energy I had for reading/blogging. At first, she was very adamant about keeping the child (a girl) and raising her, finishing high school, going to college. We didn't feel that we could discourage her one way or the other, as we didn't want her to resent us for making her give up the baby/or keep the baby. This needed to be her decision.
As time has passed though, our daughter has decided to enter into an open adoption with my sister and BIL. They have been trying to have a baby for years, and had even tried to adopt a baby from Haiti, but with no luck. She has realized that with school and work, that her baby would be spending more time with caregivers than with her and so feels this would be the best thing for the baby.
My emotions have been all over the place. (and we won't even talk about how my husband has been feeling) Once I had accepted the fact that she was actually pregnant (well - still haven't fully accepted that. . .) and that she wanted to raise the baby I tried to come to terms with what my role was going to be in this child's life. I knew that even though I said that SHE was going to be the baby's mother, that a lot of the child's care was going to fall to me. Made me realize that I really did not want to have another baby. Then when she decided to pursue the adoption, it took me awhile to accept the fact that the baby was NOT going to be here. Because she is being adopted by my sister though, I still get to be a grandma (as well as an aunt. . .)
I know that the closer her due date comes (10/29) the harder everything is going to become. I am not sure how much of a support system that I am going to be for my daughter after the baby is born and goes home with my sister - as I cry at kleenex commercials. Her first day of school is coming up in a couple of weeks - she will be starting her junior year of h.s. - and she is a little worried how people are going to act around her/with her. She wasn't really showing when school ended last year, and she is definitely showing now. I don't think she realizes how much bigger she is going to get in the next 3 months. So please just keep us in your prayers.
So, as to blogging - my reading has been picking up, but I have been very slow with reviews. I hope to begin to get caught up on reviews this month and my goal is to be fully functioning blogwise again by Sept 1. So, if you have stuck with me through this hiatus - thank you so much, and if you have just recently started reading my blog - please stay tuned!
8 comments:
Oh Kristi, I'm sorry you've had to deal with all of this. My heart breaks for your daughter, but it sounds like she has found a solution that will work for everyone. I will pray for your whole family.
Praying for your family during this emotional time
I'm sure that was a big shock for everyone! So sorry you're going through so much right now. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. I hope the open adoption goes smoothly, but the most important thing is that the baby has a family to love and care for her. And it sounds like she will have a very loving, extended family.
Just wow. I had wondered why postings had dropped off but I figured you would come back when you could. Good luck with all of the changes occuring with your family. It always makes me sad when kids force themselves to grow up too fast. Childhood is short enough as it is. Your sister and BIL must be so happy though. Congrats to them on finally having the chance to be parents.
Wow, just wow. What an emotional roller coaster you have been going through. I have missed you on the blog, but just figured it was general busyness. My prayers are with you and your family and especially your daughter and you as school starts and she goes through these final months of pregnancy. This is just tough all around, I am glad she has come to the decision she has and that your sister and BIL get the chance to become parents and that you will still get to be near the baby without having to raise another child yourself. Take care of yourself and remember you are in a lot of prayers!
I am so sorry that your family is going through such a tough period. I am glad that you are all able to come to a solution. I will be praying for you and your daughter as it will be a hard adjustment for you both. My oldest sister is adopted so I know first hand how much adoption can bless a family. I will be praying for all of you. Your daughter looks happy and content in the picture. That is a good sign! I hope everything works out for all of you!
Wow, I can't even imagine everything that you and your family are going through! I hope that things go well for her at school and that all of the adjustments of the next few months go smoothly.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hoping that everything works out for the best for all of you.
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